Marie Kondo’s “Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up”

Marie Kondo’s The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing is the book everyone has been talking about. I have to say, I willfully ignored it for the first little while. I am not known for my tidiness, and I wasn’t in the mood to be chastised and guilt-tripped. I figured, I was beyond help, and it was better to just accept it than to torment myself.

However, discussions of this book were impossible to avoid, and I finally decided to open up my closet and try figuring out if the clothes in there “sparked joy,” which is a key concept I had heard about. After quickly pulling out several items for the donate pile, I became curious about the book and decided to read it to get a better idea of what the author means by “spark joy,” and how to apply this to my home.

A couple of weeks into the process of discarding and tidying up, I am still quite uncertain if my house will ever look truly tidy. Nonetheless, I have to say that I do feel very refreshed by the small progress I have made and energized to carry on. I also have a sense of the “life-changing” aspect of this method, which really encourages you to examine what things have meaning to you, and why they are in your life. I find myself thinking about this in all sorts of ways, including more abstract things, such as work, food, and relationships.

Here’s a summary of things I took away from the book, which I can sincerely recommend.

What does it mean to “spark joy”?

This phrase is in every summary of Marie Kondo’s book, but what exactly does it mean? What I took away from my reading was the importance of learning to recognize our true feelings and reactions to objects – do they bring us a thrill of joy, or are we keeping them for other reasons? We all have items in our home that we keep because they were gifts, or they were a great bargain or a big investment, because they were a favorite in the past, and so on. If they still bring us pleasure, we should keep them. But if they no longer fit with out style or goals, it may be time to let them go.

When I wrote about my approach to planning a room, I told you that my first step is to define the style I am striving for. I do this by looking at images and identifying the elements that appeal to me. I then add or remove elements in the room, always keeping the goal in mind. To me, Marie Kondo’s philosophy is very similar to this. What is the style of my house? What is my fashion sense? If I keep these ideas in mind, I can evaluate each object and consider parting with those that don’t fit the “image” I am striving for.

One strategy that Marie Kondo recommends is physically handling every item to help get a sense of your reaction to it. Again, does it “spark joy”? I found this very helpful. When I first looked into a drawer or closet, I would scan the items and get a general sense of which I liked and which I did not, but when I picked each one up (I did not follow her method of dumping everything in a pile, but I did pull each item out of the closet or drawer to hold it in my hands) I often found that something looked less attractive – or in some cases more attractive – than I remembered, and this definitely helped me refine my belongings.

Rituals for letting go

It seems so obvious, but I realized that in the past, I hadn’t always followed the author’s recommendation to discard before organizing. I would sometimes busily find a place for things without seriously evaluating whether I actually wanted to keep them. The reminder to review every object before even starting to put them away was very helpful. In fact, there have been several instances when I discarded so many items that I realized I did not even need any additional storage solutions – I ended up with empty drawers and hangers!!

Through the beginning of this process, I realized there are two sentiments at the core of my resistance to discarding and tidying. One is a very strong sense of not wanting to waste things. This was deeply instilled in me growing up – we saved and reused everything. I look at almost every object and imagine some use for it. Certainly, I do think that many creative ideas have come out of this impulse. For example, my upcycled planters or chair makeovers. I definitely believe that there are many wonderful and beautiful ways to re-use objects. That being said, there are more than a few things in my house that I will truly never use, but I have kept them, because I hated to throw anything away. Marie Kondo’s book suggests little farewell rituals that you can use to allow yourself to let go of something that you truly do not love and will not use. She suggests “thanking” your things (I know this sounds nutty, and she definitely takes the animation of objects considerably further than I would, but on a basic level, I found it helpful) for the role they have played, and then allowing yourself to discard them if they no longer fill an important role. This could be something like, “Thank you for the years of enjoyment,” or “Thank you for helping me realize that I don’t like this style.”

The other quality that makes it hard for me to let go of objects is that I am very sentimental. I treasure memories so deeply, and I want to hold on to every person or moment that has been important to me. Marie Kondo reminds us that our memories are not in objects, but inside of us. I have now been able to touch and “thank” many small items like theater tickets or decorative souvenirs, discarding the objects while savoring the memories.

It also definitely helps me let go when I can donate items, rather then just throw them out. My friend Ariana from Revolving Decor wrote a great summary of places you can donate various items, if you are in San Francisco.

Organizing tips
Marie Kondo’s book is full of details on how to arrange and store the items you decide to keep. I am not going to write much about these here, because they don’t really lend themselves to summarizing the way the general concepts do.  I will mention the one technique that has made a huge difference in my home is her recommendation to arrange clothes in your drawers stacked horizontally like files in a cabinet, instead of vertically. When your clothes are folded and arranged horizontally, you can see everything at once, so it’s easy to find what you want, instead of having things get lost at the bottom of your drawers. It is also easy to take clothes out and put them back in without messing up everything else around them, which is much harder when your clothes are in piles. And this method seems to take up less space, so a winner all-around.

In summary, I definitely recommend this book. As you read it, you may find, as I did, that the author is a bit extreme in her ideas, but you wouldn’t read a book by just an ordinary tidy person, right? You want a book by someone extraordinarily tidy. I do think the most “life-changing” element for me is developing a new lens to evaluate things and why we have them in our homes and in our lives. It is like a muscle that you have to train and develop, and as you do, decisions of all kinds become easier!

Happy tidying, and may you find joy!


Planning a Room – From Inspiration to Finishing Touches

Did you just move into a new place? Or perhaps you are settled in your home but ready for a change of style. It can be challenging to plan a space from scratch, but it’s also a great opportunity.

For better or worse, Steve and I have moved a lot over the years, and on the “better” side, I’ve gotten a lot of experience designing spaces. Though I could have transferred our furniture and look directly from home to home, I used each move as an opportunity to refine our collection and re-consider our style. Of course, each home had its unique features of architecture, layout, and lighting, and adapting to each of these became an opportunity to try something new.

Here are some tips for creating your own dream room:

  1. Define the look you want
  • I like to look at magazines and online – Pinterest is perfect for this – and collect images of rooms I like. I start by collecting everything that catches my eye, and then I will edit the collection and look for common themes.
  • Once I have a collection of images that I like, I try to summarize the look in words, defining the color scheme and style. Having the style summarized helps keep me focused when I start decorating.
  1. Go slowly
  • I like to add elements bit-by-bit, to help me see how everything will fit together. I’ll often revise my plans as I go.
  • Don’t rush, or you may end up buying a lot of cheaper items to stay within your budget instead of focusing on slowly acquiring quality pieces.
  • Use what you have! I’ve had a lot of success re-using furniture in new ways. Sometimes it’s as simple as changing the purpose of a piece of furniture. For example, we used this bedroom dresser as a dining room sideboard for a while, and more recently, I switched to using a former TV stand as our side board.
  • Other times, you can repaint or reupholster an item to give it a new look. For example, I spent quite some time looking for black dining chairs with architectural lines, only to realize that I could repaint our existing dining chairs, and by adding a whimsical chinoiserie fabric to the seats, they fit in perfect with our new look.

3. Make it personal

  • While most rooms work best with an overall vision and cohesive style, the unique and unexpected touches are what make a room feel complete. This could be an accent of an bright color or modern art displayed in a traditional room.
  • To make your room feel personal and warm, It’s also important to make sure that you use a mix of new and old items in a room, so your home doesn’t feel like they came straight out of a catalog. I like to find vintage furniture on craigslist like this wooden chest or our marble top coffee table. I’ve also found a lot of great vintage picture frames and ceramics at local thrift stores.


A fun room to demonstrate this process is our living-dining room.

The style I honed in on for this room was based on a Hollywood Regency mid-century look. The main colors are silver/grey and blue. One of my favorite inspiration rooms is this one, by designer Elizabeth Gordon. I love the clean-lined feminine upholstered pieces, with touches of metallic glamor.


While I am well on the way to creating our dream living room, my rooms are never really done. I’m always tweaking things and looking for ways to change things around. One piece I have an eye on is this Chinese cabinet from the online auction site They have a variety of fine art for sale, including paintings and sculptures that would make a great jumping off point for your inspired space! The folks over at invaluable inspired me to write this post, and I have big ideas for a cabinet like this.

chinese armoire

I would like to turn this into a bar cabinet, by adding mirrors to the inside and displaying glasses and bottles. The doors would keep clutter hidden, but the screens would allow glimpses of the glass and bottles on the inside. I think it would be a spectacular addition.

I’ve already been scouting out the accessories I would need:

I hope I will be able to do this project soon and show it to you!


Sew a Travel Jewelry Case

This travel roll for jewelry is a quick and easy project, proven by the fact I made it the night before we left for family vacation!
Sew a travel jewelry case | Jewels at Home My jewelry roll is perfect for packing necklaces and bracelets, which is what I usually wear.

To make your own, you’ll need

  • 10″x23″ quilted fabric
  • 14″x27″ coordinating fabric for the outside
  • 3/8″ wide grosgrain ribbon, about 42″ total
  • 1″ wide grosgrain ribbon, about 1 yard
  • Thread and sewing machine

I cut the narrow grosgrain into four-inch sections to make the loops.

Next, I lay the small quilted material on the wrong side of the outer material. I folded over a border on all sides, and tucked the loops under the hem, pinning them in place.

Tutorial for a jewelry travel case | Jewels at Home

I stitched down the border, which also secured the loops.

Tutorial for a jewelry travel case | Jewels at Home

To make the outside tie, I folded the wide grosgrain in half and sewed it to one end of the roll, on the outside.

Tutorial for a jewelry travel case | Jewels at Home

And that’s it!

Easy and pretty!

Tutorial for a jewelry travel case | Jewels at Home
Tutorial for a jewelry travel case | Jewels at Home  Tutorial for a jewelry travel case | Jewels at Home
Tutorial for a jewelry travel case | Jewels at Home  

Happy travels!



Easy DIY Faux Marble Planters 

The climate in San Francisco is definitely unpredictable. We have our stunning sunny days, but we’re also known for the chilling fog that makes it hard to establish an outdoor garden. Luckily, our kitchen faces west, so we get some strong sun shining on this little ledge where I’m starting an herb garden.

I was looking for some easy ways to make containers for our plants, and these large yogurt containers are the perfect size and shape. Their looks, however, leave a little to be desired, so the grey marble contact paperI used on our fireplace came in handy again! I also found some grey granite contact paperthat worked well.

Easy DIY Faux Marble Planters  | Jewels at HomeMixed in with some other pots I have collected or painted, and with the way our three boys go through food, we’ll have our garden filled up in no time!


DIY Wedding & Anniversary Art

It’s wedding season, which also means it is anniversary season!

A long-time friend of ours just tied the knot, and I wanted to make something special to help preserve the memories for the happy couple. It’s a perfect time to create something to celebrate Steve and my anniversary, too!

I used pictures from our friends’ wedding announcement to create this simple piece of paper art (I LOVE paper!!). DIY Wedding & Anniversary Art | Jewels at Home  DIY Wedding & Anniversary Art | Jewels at HomeThis year is the big 2-0 for me and Steve! Back in the olden days, when we got married, there were no fancy photo cards, but I combined some of my favorite pictures with more fun scrapbooking paper to create this piece of art for our room.DIY Wedding & Anniversary Art | Jewels at Home

DIY Wedding & Anniversary Art | Jewels at Home Another fun project I made using wedding invitations were these luggage tags. Nicola and her husband had stunning custom cards incorporating images of the Golden Gate Bridge and a San Francisco cable car. I repurposed some of them into these luggage tags, which are getting a lot of mileage!


You could apply this idea to other cards, too. One year, I took all the Christmas cards we received and created paper ornaments using the pictures to send back to our friends.

For now, I am looking forward to the next wedding invitation that comes to our mailbox, so I can create a memorable piece of art for someone special!


Hand-painted Superman Shoes

You may remember that our littlest is a big fan of superheroes, especially Superman. We threw him a fun Superman birthday a while back, and he dressed up as Superman for Halloween, also.

Of course, he wants all the Superhero-themed shoes, and I am not saying that I have never given in to these wishes, but generally, I try to avoid the commercial superhero shoes, because they have just a few too many lights and colors for my taste. That being said, I like to keep my little guys happy, so I decided to get him a pair of plain blue slip-on Vans and paint a Superman log on them with dimensional fabric paint.

Now this mini Superman is ready to fly!

Hand-painted Superman Shoes | Jewels at Home  Hand-painted Superman Shoes | Jewels at Home  Hand-painted Superman Shoes | Jewels at Home  Hand-painted Superman Shoes | Jewels at Home  Hand-painted Superman Shoes | Jewels at Home


“Jewels” aka Superman’s mom

Patchwork Quilt Tablecloth for a Tea Party

A few years ago, I arranged a tea party baby shower for my dear friend, Nicola. Each year after that, I have hosted a tea party, combined with a Stella and Dot Jewelry Show (this is a fundraiser for our Avon Walk team and until June 21, 10-15% of the sales will go to our team!). I’ve been slowly adding details to the tea party, and this year, it was this tablecloth quilt. The floral fabrics create a romantic vintage feel that is a bit kitschy and a lot fun.

Patchwork Quilt Tablecloth for a Tea Party | Jewels at Home

Here are some pictures of the quilt. It’s a mix of fabrics from my mom’s and my stash, including scraps from the curtains that hung in the first townhouse Steve and I lived in.Patchwork Quilt Tablecloth for a Tea Party | Jewels at Home

Patchwork Quilt Tablecloth for a Tea Party | Jewels at Home

Patchwork Quilt Tablecloth for a Tea Party | Jewels at Home

Patchwork Quilt Tablecloth for a Tea Party | Jewels at Home

Thanks to my friends for another lovely and relaxing afternoon!




Father’s Day Photo Book with the Kids

So, I’ve mentioned before that Steve’s birthday always falls close to Father’s Day. This means that I either get 1) totally overwhelmed and do almost nothing or 2) get seriously motivated and make a special project for him.

Here is an example of

1) almost nothing: simple cards – easy, but still fun!

2) special project: mugs and aprons decorated by the kids

This year, we are hosting out-of-town guests during Steve’s birthday and Father’s Day, so I want to make sure that his special days don’t get completely lost in the busy schedule.

I was browsing Pinterest – as always – for ideas, and I found pins for sweet Father’s Day photo books. Unfortunately, the ones I saw are no longer available, so I made my own.

I made photo books for Steve and the boys’ two grandfathers, with blank spaces for the boys to fill in. The questions I included were:

  • My dad is good at
  • One thing my dad taught me is
  • A fun thing I did with my dad is
  • A fun thing I want to do with my dad is
  • I drew this picture of my dad and me
  • Something I have in common with my dad is
  • I know my dad loves me because
  • I love my dad because

Here’s how our books turned out.

Father's Day Photo Book | Jewels at Home  

Father's Day Photo Books to complete with the kids | Jewels at Home    Father's Day Photo Books to complete with the kids | Jewels at Home  Father's Day Photo Books to complete with the kids | Jewels at Home  Father's Day Photo Books to complete with the kids | Jewels at Home  Father's Day Photo Books to complete with the kids | Jewels at Home


Can’t wait to fill them out with the kids and share them with the special dads in our family!


DIY Headboard Slipcover

So, I love the look of an upholstered headboard – so tailored and elegant yet still inviting. But, there are a couple of reasons I wasn’t ready to add one to our bedroom – I actually like the look of our wooden headboard, and I also wanted something that was easy to keep clean.

The perfect solution was to sew a slipcover for our wooden headboard, because I can change or wash it easily.

Love the look but don't want to commit to an upholstered headboard? DIY this easy slipcover! Jewels at Home

To create a soft feel, I wanted to have a quilted slipcover, and then I thought – why not make it out of a quilt?!

I found this grey velvet quilt which is perfect. It’s no longer sold, but here are some similar options:Chezmoi Vintage Washed Cotton Quilt and CoCaLo Trellis Coverlet. I started by pre-washing the quilt, so it wouldn’t shrink in future washings.

I measured the headboard and added 2″ to the height and 5″ to the width to create my pattern. I used the finished edges of my quilt for the bottom opening.

With right sides facing, I sewed the sides and top seams of the slipcover. Then, I carefully cut away some batting from the seam allowance, so the seams would be less bulky. I squared off the top corners, and this easy project was finished!

Love the look but don't want to commit to an upholstered headboard? DIY this easy slipcover! Jewels at Home

Love the look but don't want to commit to an upholstered headboard? DIY this easy slipcover! Jewels at HomeSweet dreams!